Mid 20's Saga

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So this past weekend is one of those weekends that you cherish and are memorable and can’t wait for them to come around the few times that they do, meeting up with college friends. Two of my friends from college were in town and we did the usually catching up and reminiscing and then the conversation got DEEP. *sings Deep by Blackstreet* (totally unrelated but that’s how my brain works and this is what this blog is a peek into my life but ANYWAYS lol)

My one friend posed some great questions: Why do you want companionship? What are five physical traits you want? What are five personal traits?

Why do you want companionship?: Plain and simple at this juncture in my life I just want someone to share my day with. After graduating college you and your closest friends have become  States apart. It’s would be nice to just have that friend that you can share your day with and grow with as my desire for companionship.

What are five physical traits: Yeeeeaaa…I’m not going to get into that 😉

What are five deep traits:

1. Someone who listens to me…they listen and they respond and they share..they are open about what they are feeling.

2. Someone who is motivated…they don’t settle and go after what they want in life…whatever it is that is their goal they are always working their way towards it..

3. Someone who is adventurous because I love to try new things and traveling is a part of that and I want them to be ready to suggest things as well so we can have all these adventures together.

4. A spiritual person…they don’t necessarily have to be religious but they do have to have a relationship with God

5. A leader….There’s the whole strong black woman thing and when there’s no one else around you have to be strong because that’s your only option there’s only you and it can get exhausting. I want someone who I can just relax and let take them take the reins. Let him just be like “I got us”.

As I said all of this a few revelations came to me and that was all these things I so desire are none of the traits that any of my previous crushes or interests have had and that made me realize I didn’t know what I want til I was asked or until I had that experience of dating and truly realized what I wanted.

Another revelation came when my friend asked: Do you pray to God for your companion?

I answered Yes, but after having that conversation with them I realized that I need to open up and call on God like I do my friends.

This is just the life that I’m living and sharing and hoping to reach out to those who can relate.

Thanks Again For Reading!

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“Degrees are Out, Experience is In”

This quote is so relevant to the job industry. I applied for several jobs that had qualifications listing as such:

Master’s Degree + 1 year of experience
Bachelor’s Degree + 4 years of experience
High School Diplomas + 10 years of experience

If I started interning or working during my sophomore year of high school. I’d be in a better position to get a job now and I wouldn’t have spent “thousands” of dollars on a degree. Why I wouldn’t trade my college experience for the world. I wouldn’t say it prepares you for the job market at least not in my experience. What I have found was a great way to get that experience sooooo many jobs seek. The secret is “temp agencies” they do the work for you in finding you a position and generally you don’t need experience and you come out of it having one.

I think this is a great transition for college graduates especially those who don’t want to work in the fields they majored in. I didn’t know anything about it until my college roommate got a job through one and I decided to try and low and behold a month later I had a job. I immediately updated my resume with the current position and continued to apply to jobs and could see an immediate difference in the calls backs I was starting to get. Some positions are offered as temp to hire so it may become a permanent position if you decide that you would like to continue working with the company. So I highly recommend temp/employment agencies.

These are just my experiences as a Mid 20’s college graduate navigating this after (college) life and sharing these experiences ultimately because I know many can relate and I always find myself wanting to help others but some people in my immediate surroundings aren’t so receptive to help but there are Billions of people out there so maybe someone will stumble across this and I will have helped someone.

Thanks for reading!

“Degrees are Ou…

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As a job search or rather a career search is a reoccurring theme in my life as a recent college grad ( meaning I’m still eligible for those nice deals and rebates for new cars from manufacturers though I don’t have the financial security to sign up for it) this subject matter will be heavy in my positions.

 

I tend to scour the NY Times and read articles mostly in the jobs sections since they are so relevant to my life and this one is of the utmost relevance.

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/07/business/economy/despite-job-vacancies-employers-shy-away-from-hiring.html?smid=pl-share

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March Madness has a different meaning for me. It seems like for the past several years I always meet someone in March and essentially it never works out hence why I’m always meeting people in March. Like they say why do the same thing and expect different results so fortunately I picked up on the pattern last year and was on the lookout this year. Low and behold I applied my new tactics as a go getter when I met a seemingly nice shy guy and in the beginning it was going well but I remembered to keep in mind that it was MARCH so the inevitable was to happen and it did. I noticed the texts became less frequent when I mentioned my career ambitions and future job prospects. Long distance isn’t the things now a days I guess but alas the only devastating part was that I had planned an “It’s been fun” text to respond to the text that never came. So the relevancy that comes to being in my Mid 20’s is trying to date with the end goal of a solid relationship during this life transition period. Woe is Us!

I love to travel and this is so relevant to my plight

Thought Catalog

10 Ways To Travel As A Poor 20-Something

Book your flight months out

Flights will be significantly cheaper if you book them months in advance (duh). Plus, your bank account will be so horrifically low you’ll think twice before hopping in a cab, clicking the banner ad to learn more about unlimited music on Pandora, or buying a green swizzle chair from FAB.com.

Only be an alcoholic at home

I’m not going to tell you to stop drinking all together, because seriously — you just spent your life savings on a plane ticket to Sri Lanka. You need a drink. But have you ever stopped to think how that $8 glass of wine you’re drinking came from a $9 bottle? Learn to enjoy getting inebriated at home (besides hey! My bedroom is right here!) or at least resist the urge to drop mad money on tequila shots and craft beer during a night out. Do it in the comfort…

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So today I happen to be looking for jobs and I decide to look through the NY Times obituaries…WHY? 1. I want to live in NYC…it seems like the ideal location for someone in their Mid 20’s who loves music and loves to keep busy and most importantly have fun. 2. Wherever those people worked have at least one position open. 

Anyways so today I look and there are 4 people listed all 80+ so I’m like -_- and  one guy was listed as a nobel prize winner, clearly I’m not getting his position. Later while browsing twitter my  Alma Mater tweeted about a Nobel prize winner dying and guess where the majority of his groundbreaking work was done. Exactly! at my Alma Mater. So there may be a job for me yet!