Mid 20's Saga

“I’m Happy because I’m not Content”

I may not be where I want to be in life but just the fact that everyday I’m trying and making strides and having set backs but NEVER giving up makes me happy

“I’m Happy beca…

I don’t know how to even start this off. Guess smh at Men lol at least these men.

So we’ll start with my friend J. This man asked me to pick him up from the airport on Saturday, when I asked where he was going he said LA to be on Judge Judy 0_0. The thing is if you know him and his life it’s not even that shocking but still only him.

So this man took $1300 from a woman he was let’s say “casually” dating for a couple of months. She offered the money with “no strings attached” (I’m giving the most sideways of faces right now) and of course now that he doesn’t want to “casually date” her anymore she’s suing for the money back. Now read carefully cause this is just the tip of the iceberg.

I sensed something wasn’t right with her when she didn’t really speak to me the day he introduced us but then friended me on fb the same night :-/. Good move on her part I guess cause once he blocked her she stayed lurking my page for him. Liking everything and Lord let him comment on something of mine there she was in a quick fast hurry making subcomments right underneath his and fyi my status would read something like: “Lovely day outside I’m so Happy”.

At this point I tell him not to introduce me to any woman he’s talking to unless he’s about to propose to them cause I don’t want to get caught up with no crazy women. And believe me as the months passed the crazy grew. This woman showed up to his job as this unnamed slushie place and started cursing him out and throwing slushies around (WHO THE FUCK DOES THAT?) resulting in the cops being called but guess she was only following suit since her Mom did the same thing to him the week earlier that week (apple-tree-ya’ll know). He obviously ends up getting fired and that all leads to Judge Judy. As a crazy as she is I’m sure this episode will air.

Now the REAL reason behind the blog. Apparently this isn’t a theme with one man in my life but with two. The guy I’m currently dating sent me a text from his new number. So I expressed to him in my opinion, you only change your number for 2 reasons
1. You’re in trouble with the law
2. You’re being stalked by an ex

And he then revealed it was number 2. Damn I hate being right. So anyways he’s moving and has changed his number so now I’m like wtf. I find this out today before our first date and I’m not even sure I want to go anymore. I value my life and I don’t know this chick….he’s not that cute…trust.

So I say all that to say. Can guys just not detect crazy or do they really not just care apparently Sanity Ain’t Better Than Sex. Man I guess I’ll never know.

Thanks for Reading 🙂

So this past weekend is one of those weekends that you cherish and are memorable and can’t wait for them to come around the few times that they do, meeting up with college friends. Two of my friends from college were in town and we did the usually catching up and reminiscing and then the conversation got DEEP. *sings Deep by Blackstreet* (totally unrelated but that’s how my brain works and this is what this blog is a peek into my life but ANYWAYS lol)

My one friend posed some great questions: Why do you want companionship? What are five physical traits you want? What are five personal traits?

Why do you want companionship?: Plain and simple at this juncture in my life I just want someone to share my day with. After graduating college you and your closest friends have become  States apart. It’s would be nice to just have that friend that you can share your day with and grow with as my desire for companionship.

What are five physical traits: Yeeeeaaa…I’m not going to get into that 😉

What are five deep traits:

1. Someone who listens to me…they listen and they respond and they share..they are open about what they are feeling.

2. Someone who is motivated…they don’t settle and go after what they want in life…whatever it is that is their goal they are always working their way towards it..

3. Someone who is adventurous because I love to try new things and traveling is a part of that and I want them to be ready to suggest things as well so we can have all these adventures together.

4. A spiritual person…they don’t necessarily have to be religious but they do have to have a relationship with God

5. A leader….There’s the whole strong black woman thing and when there’s no one else around you have to be strong because that’s your only option there’s only you and it can get exhausting. I want someone who I can just relax and let take them take the reins. Let him just be like “I got us”.

As I said all of this a few revelations came to me and that was all these things I so desire are none of the traits that any of my previous crushes or interests have had and that made me realize I didn’t know what I want til I was asked or until I had that experience of dating and truly realized what I wanted.

Another revelation came when my friend asked: Do you pray to God for your companion?

I answered Yes, but after having that conversation with them I realized that I need to open up and call on God like I do my friends.

This is just the life that I’m living and sharing and hoping to reach out to those who can relate.

Thanks Again For Reading!

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“Degrees are Out, Experience is In”

This quote is so relevant to the job industry. I applied for several jobs that had qualifications listing as such:

Master’s Degree + 1 year of experience
Bachelor’s Degree + 4 years of experience
High School Diplomas + 10 years of experience

If I started interning or working during my sophomore year of high school. I’d be in a better position to get a job now and I wouldn’t have spent “thousands” of dollars on a degree. Why I wouldn’t trade my college experience for the world. I wouldn’t say it prepares you for the job market at least not in my experience. What I have found was a great way to get that experience sooooo many jobs seek. The secret is “temp agencies” they do the work for you in finding you a position and generally you don’t need experience and you come out of it having one.

I think this is a great transition for college graduates especially those who don’t want to work in the fields they majored in. I didn’t know anything about it until my college roommate got a job through one and I decided to try and low and behold a month later I had a job. I immediately updated my resume with the current position and continued to apply to jobs and could see an immediate difference in the calls backs I was starting to get. Some positions are offered as temp to hire so it may become a permanent position if you decide that you would like to continue working with the company. So I highly recommend temp/employment agencies.

These are just my experiences as a Mid 20’s college graduate navigating this after (college) life and sharing these experiences ultimately because I know many can relate and I always find myself wanting to help others but some people in my immediate surroundings aren’t so receptive to help but there are Billions of people out there so maybe someone will stumble across this and I will have helped someone.

Thanks for reading!

“Degrees are Ou…

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As a job search or rather a career search is a reoccurring theme in my life as a recent college grad ( meaning I’m still eligible for those nice deals and rebates for new cars from manufacturers though I don’t have the financial security to sign up for it) this subject matter will be heavy in my positions.

 

I tend to scour the NY Times and read articles mostly in the jobs sections since they are so relevant to my life and this one is of the utmost relevance.

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/07/business/economy/despite-job-vacancies-employers-shy-away-from-hiring.html?smid=pl-share

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March Madness has a different meaning for me. It seems like for the past several years I always meet someone in March and essentially it never works out hence why I’m always meeting people in March. Like they say why do the same thing and expect different results so fortunately I picked up on the pattern last year and was on the lookout this year. Low and behold I applied my new tactics as a go getter when I met a seemingly nice shy guy and in the beginning it was going well but I remembered to keep in mind that it was MARCH so the inevitable was to happen and it did. I noticed the texts became less frequent when I mentioned my career ambitions and future job prospects. Long distance isn’t the things now a days I guess but alas the only devastating part was that I had planned an “It’s been fun” text to respond to the text that never came. So the relevancy that comes to being in my Mid 20’s is trying to date with the end goal of a solid relationship during this life transition period. Woe is Us!